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  • Why Do I Feel Anxious When Things Are Going Well?
    August 18, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Do you feel anxious when things are going well? Learn why happiness, calm, and success can trigger vigilance—and how therapy can help you trust the good.

  • Why Do I Resent Being a Caregiver—Even Though I Love the Person I’m Caring For?
    August 17, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Caregiver resentment can coexist with love. Learn what the feeling may reveal about burnout, family roles, boundaries, guilt, and your need for support.

  • Why Do I Feel Numb—Even When I Know I Should Care?
    August 16, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Why do you feel emotionally numb even when you know you care? Learn how shutdown, conflicting feelings, depression, and protective responses can create emotional disconnection.

  • What Will Happen to My Sibling With Schizophrenia When My Parents Die?
    August 15, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Worried about what will happen to a sibling with schizophrenia when your parents die? Learn how to discuss future care, boundaries, finances, and family roles.

  • Why Do I Feel Selfish When I Take Care of Myself?
    August 14, 2026 at 12:00 AM

    Why does self-care make you feel selfish or guilty? Learn how family roles, overfunctioning, and fear of disappointing others can make ordinary needs difficult.

  • What Do I Do When a Family Member With Schizophrenia Refuses Treatment?
    August 13, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Learn how to respond when a family member with schizophrenia refuses treatment, including communication strategies, boundaries, and crisis planning.

  • Why Do Small Things Sometimes Feel So Overwhelming?
    August 12, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Why do small things feel so overwhelming? Learn how accumulated stress, earlier experiences, and protective responses can intensify everyday problems.

  • How Do I Support a Family Member With Schizophrenia Without Losing Myself?
    August 11, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Learn how to support a family member with schizophrenia while setting boundaries, managing caregiver guilt, and protecting your own well-being.

  • Why Do I Need Reassurance—and Why Does It Never Last?
    August 10, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Why do you need constant reassurance even when it never lasts? Learn how anxiety, uncertainty, and earlier experiences can drive repeated reassurance-seeking.

  • Why Do I Push People Away When I Want to Feel Close?
    August 9, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Why do you push people away when you want closeness? Learn how fear of rejection, abandonment, or losing yourself can shape adult relationships.

  • Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone Else’s Feelings?
    August 8, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Do you feel responsible for everyone else’s feelings? Learn how emotional vigilance, guilt, and early relationship patterns can turn caring into self-erasure.

  • Why Do I Shut Down During Conflict—Even When I Want to Stay Connected?
    August 7, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Do you shut down, go blank, or lose your words during conflict? Learn how automatic protective responses can interrupt communication and connection.

  • Why Isn’t Therapy Working—Even Though I’m Doing Everything Right?
    August 6, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Been in therapy for years but still feel stuck? Learn why insight, coping skills, and hard work may help without creating deeper, lasting change.

  • Why Can’t I Relax—even When Nothing Is Wrong?
    August 5, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Why can’t you relax when nothing is wrong? Learn how chronic vigilance, high-functioning anxiety, and learned protection can keep you tense.

  • Why Do I Feel Guilty When I Set Boundaries?
    August 4, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Why do you feel guilty setting boundaries? Learn how people-pleasing, childhood roles, and fear of disappointing others can make saying no feel dangerous.

  • Why Do I Keep Repeating the Same Patterns—Even When I Understand Them?
    August 4, 2026 at 3:00 AM

    Learn why you keep repeating the same patterns despite understanding them—and how therapy can help create deeper, lasting change.

  • Nervous System Regulation Is Not the Same as Healing
    July 30, 2026 at 4:30 PM

    Learn why nervous system regulation can calm distress without resolving its source—and how trauma therapy may help create deeper, lasting change.

  • Why Insight Alone Doesn't Create Lasting Change in Therapy
    July 20, 2026 at 5:00 AM

    Many people understand why they struggle, yet their patterns persist. Learn why insight matters—and why lasting emotional change often requires something more.

  • Why I Continue to Choose Deep Brain Reorienting Over EMDR: Reflections After 1,000+ DBR sessions
    July 9, 2026 at 3:30 AM

    After 1,000+ DBR sessions, Anne explains why she continues to choose Deep Brain Reorienting over EMDR for many people recovering from trauma.

  • Deep Brain Reorienting versus EMDR
    September 2, 2024 at 4:00 AM

    A Satir therapist weighs in on how Deep Brain Reorienting (DBR) is different from EMDR in her practice

  • Getting ready for your telehealth counseling session
    April 10, 2021 at 5:00 AM

    Everything you need to know to get the most out of your telehealth counseling appointment.

  • Why do I need a therapy session goal?
    November 22, 2020 at 12:00 AM

    And what does it mean if I can't think of one?

  • From Chaos to Connection
    October 3, 2020 at 12:00 AM

    If we seek unity in our world, we must first find it in ourselves

  • We're not on a journey, we ARE the journey
    September 23, 2020 at 2:00 PM

    Learn about Anne's journey and her interpretation of the Satir Model through this interview with Brandon Baker, host of The Coach's Circle Podcast

  • What do we owe to each other?
    August 8, 2020 at 5:30 PM

    A letter of support to parents and young humans

  • Being the Real You in Every Moment
    July 26, 2019 at 12:00 AM
    I’m a big fan of the Washington Post advice columnist, Carolyn Hax. She’s been writing her column for 22 years and doing a weekly, live chat as well. She even went through the major life transition of divorcing her first husband—who was, and still is, the ...
  • It's not what we do that matters, it's who we are
    July 15, 2019 at 6:00 PM
    Photo credit: Pixabay from Pexels.comHave you ever heard this statement before? I’ve heard it a few times in my life, and I have generally found it to be a bit confounding. At the very least, I feel like it would make a great topic for a group discussion.T...
  • Children, and the consequences of failing them
    July 10, 2019 at 6:00 PM
    June 27, 2019’s Rolling Stone article has brought to our attention that children are still being kept in cages on our southern border, for the apparent “crime” of their own vulnerability.  Quotes from migrant children—many quite young—obtained from one-on-...

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